Why am I passionate about this?

As an academic humanist, I spent many years teaching medical students, helping resolve ethical problems in clinical care, and writing about individuals living with mental illness and those growing older. Recently, my own chronic illness, physical pain, and surgeries have somehow opened me to multiple mystical moments of beauty and feelings of oneness with all that exists. I have become a Spiritual Director and am constantly looking for perspectives, practices, and advice about cultivating spiritual growth in myself and others. I am inspired by an ancient Talmudic story:  “When each of us is born, an angel swoops down and whispers, ‘Grow.’ 


I wrote

Old Man Country

By Thomas R. Cole ,

Book cover of Old Man Country

What is my book about?

This book follows the journey of a writer in search of wisdom as he narrates encounters with 12 distinguished American…

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The books I picked & why

Book cover of The Awakened Brain: The New Science of Spirituality and Our Quest for an Inspired Life

Thomas R. Cole Why I love this book

I love this book because it helps break down the false dichotomy between science and spirituality. I also love it because Ivy League scientist and professional psychologist Lisa Miller is not afraid to talk about her own spiritual experiences, which many of her colleagues might dismiss as fantasy. I teach humanities in medicine.

I am thrilled to learn from and share her findings that spirituality helps protect against mental suffering and can help bring healing. Miller’s view that our brains are hard-wired for spiritual awareness strengthens my own view that we are fundamentally spiritual beings but live in an era desperately in need of cultural and spiritual renewal.          

By Lisa Miller ,

Why should I read it?

2 authors picked The Awakened Brain as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

A groundbreaking exploration of the neuroscience of spirituality and a bold new paradigm for health, healing, and resilience

'Lisa Miller is the leading psychologist of her generation' Martin Seligman

'We can live chasing goals and rewards, lost in worries and regrets. Or we can awaken to the true fabric of the world, an evolving tapestry that we both behold and help to create, in which every thread matters and no strand stands alone'

Whether it's meditation or a walk in nature, reading a sacred text or saying a prayer, there are many ways to tap into a heightened awareness of…


Book cover of Happiness Is a Choice You Make: Lessons from a Year Among the Oldest Old

Thomas R. Cole Why I love this book

I love John Leland’s book because he shares his own experiences of personal change during the year he spent interviewing 6 Elders in New York City. I also enjoyed learning how people managed to survive and flourish in the midst of hardship, emotional and physical struggle, and external events they could not control.

The book is so well written that I felt as if I were in the room with Leland, listening to hard-won wisdom wrought from the elders’ lifetimes of experience. And I appreciated how Leland learned by comparing his own mid-life perspective with the late-life perspective of the New Yorkers he interviewed.

I came away feeling chastened by how hard life can be, but also feeling uplifted by these exemplars of human resilience and the power of love.        

By John Leland ,

Why should I read it?

2 authors picked Happiness Is a Choice You Make as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

A New York Times Bestseller!

An extraordinary look at what it means to grow old and a heartening guide to well-being, Happiness Is a Choice You Make weaves together the stories and wisdom of six New Yorkers who number among the “oldest old”―those eighty-five and up.

In 2015, when the award-winning journalist John Leland set out on behalf of The New York Times to meet members of America’s fastest-growing age group, he anticipated learning of challenges, of loneliness, and of the deterioration of body, mind, and quality of life. But the elders he met took him in an entirely different…


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Old Man Country by Thomas R. Cole,

This book follows the journey of a writer in search of wisdom as he narrates encounters with 12 distinguished American men over 80, including Paul Volcker, the former head of the Federal Reserve, and Denton Cooley, the world’s most famous heart surgeon.

In these and other intimate conversations, the book…

Book cover of Ordinary Mysticism

Thomas R. Cole Why I love this book

I like this book because it articulates the importance of spiritual growth in our era and because it helps me do my work as a Spiritual Director or companion. Starr provides interfaith access to ideas and practices that can help us understand that we are all standing on holy ground. 

appreciate her appeal to the growing number of people (as much as 30% of Americans) who consider themselves “spiritual but not religious.”  And I love the direct, unvarnished way she calls on us to give up the perpetual “self-improvement project” and commit to a life of connecting with others and tending to “beloved community.” 

By Mirabai Starr ,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Ordinary Mysticism as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

“This gorgeous, transformative, welcoming book is for anyone who longs to feel more present, more alive, more joyful and aware of the holiness of daily life.”—Anne Lamott, author of Dusk, Night, Dawn and Help, Thanks, Wow

Welcome to the temple of your regular life.

So begins beloved spiritual guide Mirabai Starr’s stunning exploration of finding the extraordinary in the everyday. In Ordinary Mysticism, she helps readers discover their own inner mystic and let go of the limiting belief that spiritual life exists only in traditional places of worship. Mysticism, she explains, is a direct experience of the sacred—no church or…


Book cover of Sacred Nature

Thomas R. Cole Why I love this book

I am inspired by Armstrong’s urgent reminder that that we must move beyond seeing nature as a resource and learn to experience it again as holy.

I strongly agree that our future as a planet depends on recovering the sacred in nature and nurturing it in ourselves and our relationships. Cultivating gratitude, moving beyond our narrow egos, celebrating wonder—these are things I hope to exemplify in my own life and stimulate in others.     

By Karen Armstrong ,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Sacred Nature as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

'A rich and subtle exploration of the sacredness of nature, filled with a timeless wisdom and deep humanity' Guardian

In this hugely powerful book, Karen Armstrong argues that it isn't enough to change our behaviour to avert environmental catastrophe - we must rekindle our spiritual bond with the natural world. From gratitude and compassion to sacrifice and non-violence, Armstrong draws themes from the world's religious traditions to offer practical steps to reconnect you with nature.

Speaking to anyone interested in our relationship with nature, worried about environmental destruction, or searching for new actions to save our planet, Sacred Nature will…


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Book cover of Old Man Country

Old Man Country by Thomas R. Cole,

This book follows the journey of a writer in search of wisdom as he narrates encounters with 12 distinguished American men over 80, including Paul Volcker, the former head of the Federal Reserve, and Denton Cooley, the world’s most famous heart surgeon.

In these and other intimate conversations, the book…

Book cover of Spiritual Emergency: When Personal Transformation Becomes a Crisis

Thomas R. Cole Why I love this book

I learned much from these essays that helped me understand my own spiritual experiences and helped me counsel others. I particularly like the way that transcendental experiences (e.g. near-death experiences, mystical moments, channeling, UFO encounters) are portrayed not as signs of mental disorder but as potentially disturbing moments along the path of personal growth and development—understood through various religious and spiritual traditions.   

I appreciated the essays that offer valuable suggestions for families, support groups, and professional caregivers to assist those in crisis.           

By Stanislav Grof ,

Why should I read it?

2 authors picked Spiritual Emergency as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

From Spiritual Emergency to Healing and Rebirth

Increasing numbers of people involved in personal transformation are experiencing spiritual emergencies — crises when the process of growth and change becomes chaotic and overwhelming. Individuals experiencing such episodes may feel that their sense of identity is breaking down, that their old values no longer hold true, and that the very ground beneath their personal realities is radically shifting. In many cases, new realms of mystical and spiritual experience enter their lives suddenly and dramatically, resulting in fear and confusion. They may feel tremendous anxiety, have difficulty coping with their daily lives, jobs,…


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Old Man Country

By Thomas R. Cole ,

Book cover of Old Man Country

What is my book about?

This book follows the journey of a writer in search of wisdom as he narrates encounters with 12 distinguished American men over 80, including Paul Volcker, the former head of the Federal Reserve, and Denton Cooley, the world’s most famous heart surgeon. 

In these and other intimate conversations, the book explores and honors the particular way each man faces four challenges of living a good old age:  Am I Still a Man? Do I Still Matter? What is the Meaning of My Life? And Am I Loved? Readers will come to see how each man—even the most famous—faces challenges that are every man’s challenges. Personal yet universal stories about work, love, sexuality, and hope mingle with stories about illness, loss, and death.  

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